The American Masculinity Podcast is hosted by Timothy Wienecke — licensed psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and award-winning men's advocate. Real conversations about masculinity, mental health, trauma, fatherhood, leadership, and growth. Each episode offers expert insight and practical tools to help men show up differently — as partners, fathers, friends, and leaders. No yelling. No clichés. Just grounded, thoughtful masculinity for a changing world.

Episode Summary

Most men don’t wake up one day expecting their marriage to fall apart. They tell themselves things are fine. Not great, but fine enough to keep going. But what if the real danger isn’t obvious conflict…it’s the slow drift you’ve been ignoring for years?

In this episode, host Timothy sits down with fatherhood mentor Larry Hagner. Larry has spent years working with men navigating marriage breakdowns, identity struggles, and the quiet disconnection that builds inside modern family life. Drawing from both his own experience and hundreds of conversations with men, he breaks down how good men slowly lose their footing, and how they can find it again.

This conversation explores how most crises don’t come out of nowhere. They build quietly. Through small compromises. Through avoidance. Through convincing yourself that “good enough” is enough, until it isn’t. Larry explains why men often feel blindsided by outcomes they subconsciously saw coming, and how ignoring those internal signals leads to breakdowns in marriage, fatherhood, and identity.

You’ll hear us break down:

The “good enough” trap: Why men settle into comfort while deeper dissatisfaction grows unnoticed.
Blindside moments: How men are shocked by outcomes they could have predicted in hindsight.
Identity loss: The struggle of no longer knowing who you are beyond being a husband or father.
First impressions at home: Why the first 45 seconds with your family shape the entire interaction.
The lone wolf myth: How isolation weakens men while community builds strength and clarity.
Learning vs. white-knuckling: Why men who refuse to learn often stay stuck in cycles of failure.
Marriage breakdown patterns: From disconnection to resentment to emotional withdrawal.
Sex as a signal: How intimacy reflects the overall health of the relationship.
Busyness and drift: How overloading life (kids, work, responsibilities) silently erodes connection.
Internal dialogue: Why the earliest warning signs come from your own intuition, not external crises.

We also explore the deeper emotional landscape of being a man today. The pressure to provide. The fear of failing your family. The constant question of whether you’re doing enough, or choosing the right things. Larry shares powerful personal moments, including writing a vulnerable letter to his son, showing how honesty and intentionality can rebuild connection where assumptions once lived.

This episode is not about becoming perfect. It’s about paying attention. It’s about catching the quiet signals before they become loud consequences. And it’s about choosing to lead your life, with awareness, community, and intention, before life forces you to.

Guest Information

Larry Hagner is a fatherhood mentor, speaker, and coach with over a decade of experience helping men become better husbands, fathers, and leaders. His work focuses on marriage, identity, emotional resilience, and building stronger family connections.
Works with men from all walks of life, from high-performing professionals to everyday dads navigating disconnection in their marriages, challenges with their kids, and uncertainty about their role as a man.
Founder of The Dad Edge, a global community and coaching platform where he helps men develop leadership within the home, improve communication, and create deeper, more intentional relationships with their families.
Hosts a long-running podcast featuring hundreds of conversations with experts and real men, breaking down practical strategies for marriage, parenting, and personal growth.
Draws from both personal experience and years of coaching to help men recognize destructive patterns, rebuild trust, and lead with clarity and purpose.
Key focus areas include marriage dynamics, father-child relationships, men’s identity, emotional intelligence, communication, intimacy, and living in alignment with personal values.

Note: Larry Hagner appears in this interview in a personal and professional capacity. The views expressed are his own and do not represent any licensing boards, professional associations, or organizations with whom he may be affiliated.

We fact-checked these claims against a mix of primary source material, modern psychological research, clinical guidelines, and large-scale population data. Below are the most important confirmations and clarifications for accuracy and nuance:

1. Steve Job’s Commencement Address - Stanford University

What was said:

"I think it was Steve Jobs that said, you know, if you look back, you can connect the dots, right? But looking forward, you really can't."

Status: True.

Detail:

The attribution is correct. Steve Jobs delivered this idea in his commencement address at Stanford University on June 12, 2005, widely regarded as one of the most influential graduation speeches in modern history. Hagner's rephrasing stays true to Jobs' original point. In the context of this episode, the idea is applied with real precision: men can often identify the decisions that led to a marital or relational crisis when prompted to look back, even though they could not have seen where those decisions were taking them at the time.

Source:

Jobs, S. (2005, June 12). Commencement address. Stanford University, Stanford, CA. https://news.stanford.edu/stories/2005/06/youve-got-find-love-jobs-says

Why it matters for men:

This framework reframes the absence of early self-awareness not as negligence, but as a structural limitation of forward perspective. It is a powerful and non-shaming entry point into the kind of retrospective reflection that coaches and therapists use when working with men in relational crisis.

2. The First 45 Seconds of an Encounter Shape the Next 45 Minutes of Connection

What was said:

"The first 45 seconds of an encounter with another human being will determine the next 45 minutes of connection and energy and all kinds of other stuff."

Status: Needs Clarification.

Detail:

The broader principle here is strongly supported by decades of social psychology research, specifically on first impressions, primacy effects, and what researcher Nalini Ambady called "thin-slicing." Studies consistently show that people form meaningful social judgments within the first few seconds of an encounter. These initial reads reliably shape the tone, quality, and trajectory of the interaction that follows. Willis and Todorov (2006) demonstrated that trait judgments, including trustworthiness and warmth, can form within as little as 100 milliseconds of exposure to a face. Ambady and Rosenthal's foundational thin-slicing research showed that 30-second silent video clips of teachers predicted end-of-semester student evaluations with striking accuracy. Cuddy, Fiske, and Glick (2011) further established that warmth is the very first dimension people evaluate in a new encounter, and that it anchors all subsequent perception of the other person. The spirit of Hagner's claim, that how you show up at the opening of an interaction sets the emotional temperature for everything that follows, is well-grounded in this literature. However, the specific "45 seconds → 45 minutes" ratio does not correspond to any documented peer-reviewed finding. It appears to be a coaching heuristic, likely drawn from popular leadership and communication training rather than a controlled study. The precise numbers should not be cited as scientific fact, but the underlying mechanism is real. And the practical implication Hagner draws from it, that men need to be intentional and present from the very first moment of greeting their partner or children, is valid and worth acting on.

Source:

Ambady, N., & Rosenthal, R. (1992). Thin slices of expressive behavior as predictors of interpersonal consequences: A meta-analysis. Psychological bulletin, 111(2), 256.

https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.111.2.256 Cuddy, A. J., Fiske, S. T., & Glick, P. (2008). Warmth and competence as universal dimensions of social perception: The stereotype content model and the BIAS map. Advances in experimental social psychology, 40, 61-149.

https://doi.org/10.1016/S0065-2601(07)00002-0

Willis, J., & Todorov, A. (2006). First impressions: Making up your mind after a 100-ms exposure to a face. Psychological science, 17(7), 592-598.

https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01750

Why it matters for men:

This validates Hagner's practical point without overstating it. Men do not need a lab-verified 45-second rule to take seriously the idea that presence, energy, and warmth at the moment of greeting a partner or child are load-bearing behaviors. The research confirms that these opening moments carry disproportionate weight, and that neglecting them has real downstream costs for connection.

3. Disclosure of Fantasies with Their Partners

What was said:

“ It's something like 70% and don't share everything that they would want in the bedroom in a monogamous relationship that's gonna be for the rest of their life.”

Status: Largely true, with clarification

Detail:

Research shows that most people share some of their sexual fantasies with their partner, but very few share all of them. Studies make a clear distinction between sharing any fantasy and sharing the full range, and complete disclosure is much less common. People often withhold fantasies they think are unrealistic, socially judged, or might upset the relationship. Estimates that around 70 percent of people do not share all their fantasies align with this research. Many still share some fantasies, but not the full set.

Source:

Kimberley, M. L., Jones, S. A., & Elliott, J. M. (2025). A Content Analysis of Reasons for Disclosing Sexual Fantasies and Partner Responses. The Journal of Sex Research, 62(3), 421–432.

https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2024.2310085

Lehmiller, J. (2018). Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Da Capo Press. https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234958

Why it matters for men:

This matters for men because it highlights the importance of understanding intimacy and communication in relationships. Men may assume that a partner’s silence means lack of interest or desire, but in reality, most people selectively share fantasies. Recognizing this can help men approach conversations about sexual desires with curiosity and respect, reduce misunderstandings, and foster a more open and trusting connection without pressuring for full disclosure.

4. Lone Wolf - Not a Strength

What was said: “Lone wolf is a code for lonely. Its not strength.”

Status: True

Detail:

Modern scholarship strongly confirms that the “lone wolf” mentality, hyper-independence, avoidance of vulnerability, and refusal to seek community, is not strength but a common mask for loneliness and emotional isolation. It is particularly apparent among men socialized under traditional masculinity norms that equate help-seeking with weakness. This pattern correlates with elevated risks of poor mental health, relational erosion, and physical mortality. Meta-analytic evidence demonstrates that objective social isolation and subjective loneliness each increase all-cause mortality risk by approximately 26–32%, comparable to major established risk factors such as smoking or obesity. Far from building resilience, lone-wolf isolation reinforces cycles of disconnection, whereas courageous engagement in supportive communities (e.g., masterminds or men’s groups) fosters the very strength, accountability, and growth Larry Hagner describes.

Source:

Holt-Lunstad, J., Smith, T. B., Baker, M., Harris, T., & Stephenson, D. (2015). Loneliness and social isolation as risk factors for mortality: a meta-analytic review. Perspectives on psychological science, 10(2), 227-237.

https://doi.org/10.1177/1745691614568352

Lonely at the top: The High Cost of Men’s Success: Joiner Ph.D., Thomas: 9780230104433: Amazon.com: Books. (n.d.). https://www.amazon.com/Lonely-Top-High-Cost-Success/dp/0230104436

Why it matters for men:

This validates the episode’s core message that real masculine leadership, especially in fatherhood and marriage, requires rejecting the myth of solitary strength and actively building community, turning potential crisis into proactive resilience without pathologizing healthy reflective solitude.

5. Health Benefits of Sexual Activity Approximately Every Three Days

What was said: “ There are health benefits to every three day sex”

Status: True

Detail:

Contemporary peer-reviewed studies consistently link sexual activity at frequencies of 1–3 times per week with measurable health gains. These include improved immune function (higher salivary IgA levels), reduced cardiovascular risk in multiple cohorts, better stress regulation via oxytocin and endorphin release, enhanced sleep quality, and for men, lower prostate cancer incidence with more frequent ejaculation.

Even though robust evidence supports physical and psychological benefits for moderate regular sexual frequency in this range, the benefits can plateau or vary by age, health status, and exact outcome; very high frequency may show diminishing returns or context-specific risks in some older populations.

Source:

Liu, H., Waite, L. J., Shen, S., & Wang, D. H. (2016). Is sex good for your health? A national study on partnered sexuality and cardiovascular risk among older men and women. Journal of health and social behavior, 57(3), 276-296.

https://doi.org/10.1177/0022146516661597

Rider, J. R., Wilson, K. M., Sinnott, J. A., Kelly, R. S., Mucci, L. A., & Giovannucci, E. L. (2016). Ejaculation frequency and risk of prostate cancer: updated results with an additional decade of follow-up. European urology, 70(6), 974-982.

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.eururo.2016.03.027

Why it matters for men:

This validates the episode’s practical framing that regular intimacy is not merely relational “maintenance” but a proactive health practice supporting the very strength, presence, and values-based marriage Larry and Tim advocate, preventing the emotional and physical drift that turns good marriages into co-parenting roommates.

6. Persistence of Emotional Triggers: Underlying Associations Never Fully Disappear.

What was said:

“The triggers never really go away in my experience. Whatever’s underneath the trigger will always be there.”

Status: True, with clarification

Detail:

Modern neuroscience of fear conditioning and extinction shows that once a trigger (conditioned stimulus) is paired with an emotional response (e.g., shame around sex from childhood upbringing), the original memory trace is not erased by therapy or time. Extinction creates a new inhibitory learning that competes with the old association, but the underlying trigger can spontaneously recover, renew in new contexts, or reinstate, exactly as Tim describes from clinical experience.

Even though the automatic emotional response and original memory association persist, the deliberate practice can dramatically reduce their intensity and behavioral impact.

Source:

Milad, M. R., & Quirk, G. J. (2012). Fear extinction as a model for translational neuroscience: ten years of progress. Annual review of psychology, 63(1), 129-151.

https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev.psych.121208.131631

Vervliet, B., Craske, M. G., & Hermans, D. (2013). Fear extinction and relapse: state of the art. Annual review of clinical psychology, 9(1), 215-248.

https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-clinpsy-050212-185542

Why it matters for men:

This validates a core truth for men pursuing strength and self-mastery: emotional triggers rooted in childhood, past failures, or cultural conditioning do not have to be eliminated before we can act with courage, presence, and integrity. By accepting that the raw feeling will always arise yet choosing disciplined response through community, reflection, and virtue, men develop genuine resilience, turning potential weakness into the steady leadership that sustains marriages, raises confident kids, and builds lives of real impact instead of quiet avoidance.

7. High School Athletes Playing in College

What was said:

“1-2% of kids who play sports are gonna play in college.”

Status: False / needs clarification.

Detail:

The NCAA’s current “Estimated probability of competing in college athletics” page says nearly 8 million students participate in high school athletics in the U.S., and about 560,000 compete as NCAA athletes, which is roughly 7%, not 1–2%. The NCAA also notes that these are approximations, that the calculation is based on high school-team participation rather than all youth who play sports, and that club-only athletes are not counted, so the phrase “kids who play sports” is too broad for a single exact percentage. A separate NCAA recruiting fact sheet uses the 2% figure for high school athletes who receive athletics scholarships, not for those who play in college.

Source:

National Collegiate Athletic Association. (2024, October). NCAA recruiting facts. NCAA.org. https://ncaaorg.s3.amazonaws.com/compliance/recruiting/NCAA_RecruitingFactSheet.pdf

National Collegiate Athletic Association. (2026, March). Estimated probability of competing in college athletics. NCAA.org. https://www.ncaa.org/sports/2015/3/2/estimated-probability-of-competing-in-college-athletics.aspx

Why it matters for the episode:

This corrects a common exaggeration that can lead fathers to overinvest time, money, and pressure into youth sports. Many believe elite outcomes are almost impossible, which is not fully accurate. The data shows that college athletics is still competitive, but not as rare as the “1–2%” claim suggests.

This matters because it helps men make more grounded decisions as parents. Instead of building family life around a narrow and high-pressure path, fathers can focus on what sports really offer. These include discipline, teamwork, resilience, and bonding. By doing this, they can support their children without putting unnecessary strain on family life. It helps protect their relationships, their own well-being, and keeps expectations realistic.

8. Testosterone Testing in Men Over 30 With Depressive Symptoms

What was said:

“When a guy walks in over 30 with depressive symptoms, you need to refer him out to see where his testosterone’s at.”

Status: Partly true / needs clarification.

Detail:

Low mood can be one of the symptoms seen in men with low testosterone. Because of this, experts say men with the right mix of symptoms should be checked for hypogonadism. But it is not as simple as testing every man who feels depressed. The Endocrine Society says doctors should only diagnose low testosterone when symptoms are present along with clearly and consistently low blood levels. It also advises against routine testing in all men.

The British Society for Sexual Medicine makes a similar point. Symptoms like fatigue, poor sleep, low energy, low motivation, and depressed mood are common, but they are not specific to low testosterone. Many men with normal hormone levels can still have these symptoms. So a more accurate way to say it is this: not every man over 30 with depression needs a testosterone test. Instead, testing should be considered when depression appears alongside other signs of low testosterone, especially sexual symptoms, low energy, or ongoing physical changes.

This distinction matters because it keeps things balanced. It helps prevent testosterone from being used as a quick or easy explanation for depression. At the same time, it ensures that real cases of low testosterone are not overlooked.

Source:

Bhasin, S., Brito, J. P., Cunningham, G. R., Hayes, F. J., Hodis, H. N., Matsumoto, A. M., ... & Yialamas, M. A. (2018). Testosterone therapy in men with hypogonadism: an endocrine society clinical practice guideline. The Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism, 103(5), 1715-1744.

https://doi.org/10.1210/jc.2018-00229

Hackett, G., Kirby, M., Edwards, D., Jones, T. H., Wylie, K., Ossei-Gerning, N., ... & Muneer, A. (2017). British Society for Sexual Medicine guidelines on adult testosterone deficiency, with statements for UK practice. The journal of sexual medicine, 14(12), 1504-1523.

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsxm.2017.10.067

Why it matters for men:

This helps avoid two common mistakes at the same time. First, it reduces the risk of missing a real biological cause. Low testosterone can affect mood, energy, and motivation. If it is not treated, it can slowly lower a man’s quality of life. Second, it stops people from oversimplifying depression. Depression is not always just a hormone issue. If someone assumes it is only “low T,” they may ignore other causes like stress, relationships, or lifestyle habits that need attention.

Getting this balance right leads to better decisions. It pushes men to look at the full picture instead of choosing the easiest answer. This makes it more likely they get the right mix of care, whether that is therapy, lifestyle changes, medical treatment, or a combination of these.

9. Hormone Therapy Usage Comparison Between Women (HRT for Menopause/Perimenopause) and Men

What was said:

“I had no idea that just as many women are on hormone treatment as men. For post, uh, perimenopause and menopause.”

Status: Clarified

Detail:

Hormone therapy use in women dropped a lot after the early 2000s. This happened after the Women’s Health Initiative raised safety concerns. Before that, about 27% of postmenopausal women in the US used hormone therapy. Today, that number is much lower, around 4.7 to 5%.

In real terms, that still means about 2 to 3 million women are currently using hormone therapy, since there are roughly 50 to 63 million women over age 50 in the US. In recent years, there has been a small increase in prescriptions, especially for women between 50 and 65, but overall use remains low compared to the past.

For men, testosterone replacement therapy has followed a different trend. Its use has grown steadily since the early 2000s. By 2024, more than 11 million prescriptions were written each year, up from about 7.3 million in 2019. This likely represents around 1.5 to 2.5 million men using testosterone therapy.

So in simple terms, both men and women using hormone treatments number in the millions. However, the idea that the numbers are exactly equal is not supported by strong evidence. The trends are also different. Women’s hormone therapy dropped and stayed relatively low, while testosterone use in men has been rising.

The key takeaway is that hormone therapy is not just a men’s issue. Women also use it in meaningful numbers, even if the patterns and reasons are different.

Source:

Cho, L., Kaunitz, A. M., Faubion, S. S., Hayes, S. N., Lau, E. S., Pristera, N., ... & ACC CVD in Women Committee. (2023). Rethinking menopausal hormone therapy: for whom, what, when, and how long?. Circulation, 147(7), 597-610.

https://doi.org/10.1161/CIRCULATIONAHA.122.061559

Rao, P. K., Boulet, S. L., Mehta, A., Hotaling, J., Eisenberg, M. L., Honig, S. C., ... & Ross, L. S. (2017). Trends in testosterone replacement therapy use from 2003 to 2013 among reproductive-age men in the United States. The Journal of urology, 197(4), 1121-1126.

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.juro.2016.10.063

Why it matters for men:

This validates that hormonal shifts and treatments affect both partners at comparable population scales, normalizing open conversations about midlife health, reducing stigma around “hormone issues,” and encouraging couples to approach perimenopause/menopause and low-T support as shared rather than isolated challenges.

10. Drag Story Hour “No Incidents” Claim

What was said:

“For every drag reading hour… not a single reported incident of inappropriate behavior, not one.”

Status: Needs clarification

Detail:

The claim as stated goes further than the evidence supports, but the correction here is more nuanced than a simple false rating.

There is one documented case. In Houston, a performer who had been convicted of sexually assaulting an eight-year-old was allowed to read to children at a public library after the library failed to conduct its standard background check. The library acknowledged the failure publicly and apologized. That vetting failure is real, it matters, and it should not be minimized.

What did not happen is equally important. No child was harmed at that event. The library's own statement confirmed no inappropriate conduct was reported at the storytime itself. The background check failed. The format held.

That distinction is not a technicality. It reflects something important about how child safety actually works in program design. Every institution with a documented history of child sexual abuse — Catholic clergy, public school educators, youth sports programs, Big Brothers Big Sisters — shares the same enabling conditions: sustained private access to a child, an ongoing authority relationship, and reduced parental oversight. These are the structural conditions that allow grooming and abuse to occur. A 2004 U.S. Department of Education study estimated that approximately 10% of K-12 students will experience some form of educator sexual misconduct before graduating high school (Shakeshaft, 2004). The John Jay College report found that approximately 4% of Catholic priests in active ministry between 1950 and 2002 were credibly accused of abusing minors (Terry et al., 2011). Big Brothers Big Sisters documented 304 reports of child sexual abuse within its programs between 1982 and 1991 alone, and abuse cases involving individual mentors continue to be litigated today.

No program is perfectly safe. Anyone who tells you otherwise is selling something. But child safety research is consistent about what makes a program structurally dangerous versus structurally protective. Drag Story Hour events are held in public venues, with parents present, with no sustained individual relationship between the performer and the child, and with no private access at any point. These are the conditions that make abuse structurally difficult to execute — not impossible, but difficult. The Houston case demonstrates exactly this: the vetting failed and a convicted offender entered the room. The children were still protected because there was nowhere for harm to happen.

The claim that no incident has ever occurred overstates the record. The more accurate and more useful statement is this: Drag Story Hour's format — public setting, parental presence, limited and time-bounded contact, no private access — reflects the structural profile of lowest-risk children's programming. The documented harm record across thousands of events since 2015 is consistent with that design. Those seeking to harm children would find little to work with here.

Source:

Gonzalez, M. (n.d.). Houston Public Library Statement on Drag Queen Storytime – City of Houston | Newsroom. https://cityofhouston.news/houston-public-library-statement-on-drag-queen-storytime/

Shakeshaft, C. (2004). Educator sexual misconduct: A synthesis of existing literature. U.S. Department of Education. https://www2.ed.gov/rschstat/research/pubs/misconductreview/report.pdf

Talarico, L. (2019, March 19). Houston Public Library admits registered child sex offender read to kids in Drag Queen Storytime. khou.com. https://www.khou.com/article/news/local/houston-public-library-admits-registered-child-sex-offender-participated-in-drag-queen-storytime/285-becf3a0d-56c5-4f3c-96df-add07bbd002a

Terry, K. J., Smith, M. L., Schuth, K., Kelly, J. R., Vollman, B., & Massey, C. (2011). The causes and context of sexual abuse of minors by Catholic priests in the United States, 1950–2010. United States Conference of Catholic Bishops. https://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/child-and-youth-protection/upload/The-Causes-and-Context-of-Sexual-Abuse-of-Minors-by-Catholic-Priests-in-the-United-States-1950-2010.pdf

Why it matters for men:

Fathers making decisions about their children's safety deserve accurate information, not a culture war talking point in either direction. The honest answer is that no children's program carries zero risk, but risk is not uniform across programs. It is structural. Understanding what actually enables harm, and what disrupts it, is how a man makes a sound decision for his family. That's the standard worth holding.

Full Citations / Further Reading

Ambady, N., & Rosenthal, R. (1992). Thin slices of expressive behavior as predictors of interpersonal consequences: A meta-analysis. Psychological bulletin, 111(2), 256.

https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.111.2.256

https://doi.org/10.1210/jc.2018-00229

https://doi.org/10.1161/CIRCULATIONAHA.122.061559

Cuddy, A. J., Fiske, S. T., & Glick, P. (2008). Warmth and competence as universal dimensions of social perception: The stereotype content model and the BIAS map. Advances in experimental social psychology, 40, 61-149.

https://doi.org/10.1016/S0065-2601(07)00002-0

Gonzalez, M. (n.d.). Houston Public Library Statement on Drag Queen Storytime – City of Houston | Newsroom. https://cityofhouston.news/houston-public-library-statement-on-drag-queen-storytime/

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsxm.2017.10.067

https://doi.org/10.1177/1745691614568352

Jobs, S. (2005, June 12). Commencement address. Stanford University, Stanford, CA. https://news.stanford.edu/stories/2005/06/youve-got-find-love-jobs-says

Kimberley, M. L., Jones, S. A., & Elliott, J. M. (2025). A Content Analysis of Reasons for Disclosing Sexual Fantasies and Partner Responses. The Journal of Sex Research, 62(3), 421–432.

https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2024.2310085

Lehmiller, J. (2018). Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Da Capo Press. https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234958

https://doi.org/10.1177/0022146516661597

Lonely at the top: The High Cost of Men’s Success: Joiner Ph.D., Thomas: 9780230104433: Amazon.com: Books. (n.d.). https://www.amazon.com/Lonely-Top-High-Cost-Success/dp/0230104436

Milad, M. R., & Quirk, G. J. (2012). Fear extinction as a model for translational neuroscience: ten years of progress. Annual review of psychology, 63(1), 129-151.

https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev.psych.121208.131631

National Collegiate Athletic Association. (2024, October). NCAA recruiting facts. NCAA.org. https://ncaaorg.s3.amazonaws.com/compliance/recruiting/NCAA_RecruitingFactSheet.pdf

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.juro.2016.10.063

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.eururo.2016.03.027

Shakeshaft, C. (2004). Educator sexual misconduct: A synthesis of existing literature. U.S. Department of Education. https://www2.ed.gov/rschstat/research/pubs/misconductreview/report.pdf

Vervliet, B., Craske, M. G., & Hermans, D. (2013). Fear extinction and relapse: state of the art. Annual review of clinical psychology, 9(1), 215-248.

https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-clinpsy-050212-185542

Willis, J., & Todorov, A. (2006). First impressions: Making up your mind after a 100-ms exposure to a face. Psychological science, 17(7), 592-598.

https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01750

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